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Wednesday, August 01, 2012

 {what i want my kids to know}

how many times have i nodded my head emphatically along side the words,
"well, we need to just LOVE everyone!"

because it's true. we do need to just LOVE everyone. i honestly believe that.

but. in recent light of arguments swirling, and the tough issues surrounding us in society,
i've realized perhaps my head nodding hasn't been entirely from conviction..
rather, maybe a subtle masking of passiveness on my part?

i'd like to think i love everyone...
no matter backgrounds. lifestyle choices. criminal records. beliefs.
but that's easy to say from a comfortable distance away~
when was the last time i was truly confronted with those different than me?
in an every day, personal space kind of way?
that's when i see what kind of love i really have.

i can spew opinions all day on facebook. talk about the horrors in the world..
yes. nodding my head right off, and yet, not necessarily, love.

love is not a noun. a thing, an object.
it's a verb. moving. alive. active!

and i ask myself if what i've called "love," isn't merely a way of disconnecting.
we say, "live and let live." and it sounds well and good, but is that so we don't have to get too close?
too involved? too out of our comfort zones?

so. we stay on the sidelines and shout, 'love you's,' to those we never even truly take the time to see the faces of.

but beyond the superficial fluff of meaningless words.
what really cuts me to the core, is not so much my lack of love..
but the lack of feeling anything in particular at all.

and i wonder. is this not a greater sin than not loving? not really even caring.
to not be able to see past the needs in my own life, to a world emerged in brokenness?
to be so caught up in my own little sufferings, that i don't even notice the pained looks of those around me?

i've been thinking so much about this lately. churning it round..
realizing that the answer can't be, "simply love."
because there is nothing in me that can love. not like that. not selfless and without expectation.
even those i like and hold most precious. let alone, some perfect stranger i've never even met.

no. the real answer is God Himself!
He is the only one that can change hearts.

and that's what i need.
not more conjuring up some type of love. but a changed heart.
a tenderness to what hurts His.

to see those with different sins than mine with understanding, not judgement.
to be able to view the paths others are walking with compassion, not disdain.
to realize, it doesn't take trying on someone else's shoes to identify with their pain.
to offer kindness from a place of humility... genuine heart humility. 
not the false kind that leaves others feeling like a "project," not a person with real feelings.

to be able to love because it's a love God has put there, through a changed heart.
and not simply because acting like we love is the cool, vogue thing to do as a christian these days.

i have often feared what kind of world we're leaving our kids.
when they are mom's and dad's, what will they be facing?
and it's because of my kids...
not truett cathy or the mayor of boston or the gay's fighting for their rights 
that stirs a passion inside me to shake off my passivity and get serious with what i believe.

as their young eyes lock hard with mine, questioning, looking for straight answers..
i feel called to an accountability like never before to get off the sidelines and into the game!
to stop standing a safe distance away, afraid of getting a bit of dirt on me, from yes, the mess that is our world.

and i realize this is sacred ground we're treading.
this pursuing of change and realness and truth.
my heart races fast at just the thought.

but, i want my kids to know, as we join hands, and navigate the way together..
there is something so much more sure than simply what mom and dad have to say.
something much more solid. unchanging. reliable.

and when answers are needed for the tough questions.
and a changed of heart in order to genuinely love.
when you're trying to combat the lies flooding in all around...
feeling tossed. overwhelmed.

there is an anchor for our souls.
and that anchor is the Word of God.


it is there the pendulum of grace and discernment stands perfectly balanced.
there, where you recognize your own sin is as blinding as the other guy's.
and there, where you find the most perfect example of all on not just what is love, but how.

in a culture where most christians take their world view from saturday night live -
we must be willing to hold on to what's not always popular to hold on to!

we might have to get over the whole cool christian thing and embrace some old fashion Bible truths that seem to be lost ~
where sin causes us to blush - not joke about.
where hell is scary - not just a swear word.
where people know we're different not because we say we are - but because we live like we are.

because we BELIEVE we're supposed to be!

to not just let loving others apply to the homosexuals and liberal left wingers.
but to make it even more real than that and start in our own churches -
with our christian brothers and sisters.
imagine that?
people who've not spoken in years! that one you can't forgive.

we need to start within our own homes.

we need a few more christians willing to stop climbing on every political and religious soap box available out there,
and choose to simply stand one place. on the Word of God! 

kate. ben. emma and little reese..
i pray you will be those kind of christians.



now. who wants to go to chick-fil-a for dinner? ;)
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Next time I'm in town, it is Chik-fil-A ~
Posted 7/31/2012 3:51 PM by fwren Xanga True Member Xanga Lifetime Member - recommend - reply

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Great post Amber! =)
Very well said.
Posted 7/31/2012 4:19 PM by Elizabethmarie_1 Xanga Premium Member - recommend - reply

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Love this......
Here's a confession.....I "liked" it on fb even before I read it because I KNEW I would love it.
So wish we were neighbors......
Love to you and your beautiful family.
Are there Chickfila's up there, eh?
Did I do that right? Is it "eh" or "ya".....whatever....you get the point. I should brush up on my Canadian.
Posted 7/31/2012 4:38 PM by ToLiveLoved Xanga Premium Member - recommend - reply

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I feel you...
GREAT POST!!
Posted 7/31/2012 4:57 PM by Kris0logy - recommend - reply

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Amen! I'll be seeing you there.... :) <3
Posted 7/31/2012 5:36 PM by Tempguestbrief Xanga Lifetime Member - recommend - reply

Amen & Amen!
Posted 7/31/2012 5:51 PM by karen@facebook - recommend - reply

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you are absolutely right. we must love people one at a time. individually. really see them. have compassion. it's not our place to judge, but it is our place to live our lives in such a way that people see God in us.  thanks for your post.--karen
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I love this post!  No Chik-fil-A around here but I will definitely be eating there when we go back down to see our son and his family!
Posted 7/31/2012 8:21 PM by oldfatgramma - recommend - reply

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I can tell you this from working with non-believers, you have to know the word of God and history to share with the world around you. There is a militant atheism at work in our culture today that is trying to shut Christians up any way they can. And at the other end of the spectrum a thinking that all roads lead to heaven and God forgives everybody whether they ask him to or not. Which is just as dangerous as the first school of thought. The world is starving for truth...they just don't know it, as a matter of fact they think they are fine just the way they are...they think we are the one's with problems for beleiving an antiquated religion. I've learned that I better know my stuff before I speak up, prepared to give an answer, and we have to speak up as faith comes from hearing and hearing from the word of God. The world is dying around us and we have to care enough about their eternal future to speak the truth and not worry about how we are fitting in here and now. And it's not easy, it's easier to let someone else do it because it could mean rejection or worse...connection!


I struggle with this all the time...let's pray for each other!

Posted 7/31/2012 9:53 PM by DawneElla - recommend - reply

Yes... I especially agree with standing on the WORD alone!
Posted 7/31/2012 10:26 PM by Becki (site) - recommend - reply

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amen and amen. been thinking so much about this very thing too. jesus says in matthew that not everyone who calls him lord will inherit eternal life... BUT, him that doeth the will of the father. what all does that mean and look like for us today? i think you are spot on.... it's high time to get out of our little comfort zones and think radically about truth which only is found in His Word.

and yes, meet you at chick-fill-a to bounce off ideas i feel God birthing in my heart.... and i'd love to hear about more of yours. ♥
Posted 7/31/2012 11:08 PM by singingrachel - recommend - reply

I wonder if sixty years ago Chick-fil-a would have had a sign displaying "No Blacks Allowed" at their counters? Or would they have just refused to hire black workers or hire them and pay them less and refuse them the benefits given to their white counterparts? And would y'all have proudly continued patronizing them then or would you have stood with the blacks fighting for their rights?
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What are we here on earth for?? To become friends with non-believers only to then point out their sins? :( How do we witness to those who don't see their behavior as sin like we might?? How do we stand for what we believe is right, protect our freedom of speech when others who don't have the same values think they are also standing for their freedom of speech, etc.?
I believe you are right - it is a heart condition coming from a relationship with God - the overflow of God's love from our heart and spirit will hopefully draw others to repentance - God's loving kindness draws people to his heart. We need to pray for eyes to be opened to Truth, for wisdom on how to teach our children so they can remain strong, for courage to step out of our passivity, for protection from the schemes of the enemy. I've definitely been fighting fear of the future lately, fear of the unknown - shows my lack of complete trust in my all-knowing, powerful, sovereign God - more opportunity to grow my faith, develop a closer relationship with Him. Thankful that He is faithful.
Posted 8/1/2012 12:36 AM by wj3km - recommend - reply

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Speak truth and love. Hard to find a balance. There are many things you can do to get involved with others, but maybe those things are better to do when your impressionable little ones are grown.
I'm sure there are some things you can do now, and God will show you what they are since you have a heart that's open to Him. We don't have a Chick-Fil-A in town, or I would go.
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@ToLiveLoved - it's, eh? :)) and no. there isn't a chick -fil- a here, but it felt good to write. ;) we ate there twice while in cincy last week. i DO love their food. {and cheesecake!!} ;)
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@DawneElla - you're so right about there being a militant atheism in our culture. i don't think i really understood/ knew that until the kids went to school last year and were exposed to that through their peers, and even teaching! it was them coming home asking/ talking about these things that first opened our eyes to the need to ground them better in the Word of God and yes, to be prepared to give an answer. it's so easy as christians to hold back.. to think we need to protect our kids from the issues around us. i grew up and came more from that kind of mindset - - the whole "circle the wagons" approach to christianity. and it's been a huge learning curve to know the balance w/ the kids of seeing them exposed to some of this stuff at school and yet also seek to guide and protect them through it all.. if that makes sense.

what you said about caring enough about people's eternal future to get over our fears and speak truth spoke to me too. anyway, good, and as always, challenged by your thoughts, friend. thanks for sharing. :)
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wow. challenging and convicting post. thanks, amber!
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"there is an anchor for our souls.
and that anchor is the Word of God.

it is there the pendulum of grace and discernment stands perfectly balanced.
there, where you recognize your own sin is as blinding as the other guy's.
and there, where you find the most perfect example of all on not just what is love, but how. "

I just love that, Amber! Your words are so great here. I find myself conflicted about how on the one hand we are being judged for believing what the Bible says, and on the other hand we're doling out judgment to everyone around us at the same time. Where is the middle ground??
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Hey can I quote you on facebook?? LOL But seriously, can I?
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@bethro78 - ha! of course you can quote me! ;)

and YES, please!! let's get a conversation going about the whole not judging/ but doling out judgement. i'm with ya. conflicted. would love for some others thoughts too, if anyone has any.

right now. baby's squawling and i smell dinner... STRONGLY, which hopefully doesn't mean BURNT!! ;)
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Amen! I think so much of people's words never get into actions. You can talk about it all day but your actions will still speak louder then your words any day. If everyone loved each other like they should how much bitterness and anger would be gone! This is quite convicting to me as well and I've not arrived either, still a work in progress
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Amen, Sista! Great, great words written.
Posted 8/1/2012 10:39 PM by Blessingsofabigfamily - recommend - reply

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Yes. A changed heart. I pray let my heart be broken by the things that break God's heart.
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I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your prelude to visiting chikfila!
i tend to wallow
between getting caught up in the "right-on" messages of the mike hukabee's
and
feeling the heart and compassion for JESUS of the hurting masses caught up in sin.
there is a balance.
and
i must CONSTANTLY check my spirit...making sure i'm securely attached to the Vine
and
representing HIS SPIRIT!
i don't want to, in any way, compromise for the sake of being "tolerant".
WHAT A JOB US CHRISTIANS HAVE IN THIS NEW WORLD VIEW!

<3 you, girl! once again, YOU HIT IT!
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Very well written!  A good challenge for everyone, I think!
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