March 13, 2012
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{just a reminder to all you moms of little ones}


they will.
the days of changing diapers and chopping food into teeny tiny pieces won’t last forever.
of drinking your coffee cold and feeling like the refrigerator.. your kids the magnets, constantly STUCK to you!
days without showering because you’d rather sleep instead.
that just when you sit down for quiet, but of course, someone needs you.and it’s hard to fathom a day when they won’t.
I smile inside looking back.
all those times someone would tell me just that.
how short are the years that fill such long days.and I’d look through puffy eyes and fight the urge to say, “please shut up and go away!”
but turns out. maybe they knew something after all. because IT’S TRUE!those days really do end.
and I’m thinking all this. feeling it a little deeper. today. especially more, it seems..
as Ben – my kid, of all the kids, that used to make me doubt this the most, turns THIRTEEN !!
and I find myself just now, staring for a bit between those two things..
that word THIRTEEN, and the little face in the picture.{long sigh} so much more to say about all this.
about him. and teenagers. and life. and uncharted waters.
of thankfulness and lessons learned and the ever daily cries for grace~but.
the kids are on spring break this week. {yay}
someone has some birthday money to spend.
and we have some partying to do.
so for now.
happy 13th birthday to our Ben~
and moms of young ones reading this..
someday that will be your kid too!!!
they’ll cut their own food and go to the bathroom all by themselves, without any help from you.I promise.

Comments (37)
Aww. This made me a little teary eyed. Happy Birthday to Ben-Lou. We need a different one for boys. Happy birthday for Ben-Frank!
happy birthday Ben. you have a swell mom to spend birthday money with!
and, amber, i KNOW the years fly by. i just caught on to that one not so many years ago…the problem is that even as i know it….i am still not always capable of living in the moment. but thank you for once again, bringing light to my shadows. you’re Ben is so handsome. i was going to say cute but now that he’s a teenager…….well….:)
I know you are right, Amber. I had my first “Oh, crap” revelation about that almost 2 years ago. But I am still not sure that it has changed my daily life as much as it should. I hope Ben’s birthday is really special!
Happy Birthday Ben
Happy birthday to Ben — a teenager now!!!
It is funny how when you are in the middle of it all, you see no end in sight, and then one day….. it ends! I miss it. I know there were plenty of trying times, but they are not what I remember. My heart took so many pictures of the good things. My poor daughter is going through it now with a strong willed, stubborn little almost 3 year old, and a newborn. She has called me crying a few times, and it is hard because there is an ocean between us! She had to go back to work when Josiah was only 5 weeks old, and is finding it VERY difficult to get out the door on time. She is even waking up at 3:30 AM to try to have enough time to nurse the baby, dress and feed Lucas, and all the other morning mommy stuff. Whew! Happy birthday to your sweet young man. WOW! Another teenager in the house! God give you grace!
They sure do fly by….I hate it.
A Great Big Happy Birthday to Ben!!! From all of us. =)
Happy Birthday Blessings to you Ben!!! May you continue to be a blessing to your parents and siblings and a glory to God!!
And Amber….Seriously, you promise!!! Because I am right in the thick of “Mom, Matthew’s got a stinky”, “Mom, can you cut this?”, “Mom, can you button this?” Although, I must add, I just got the 4th one potty trained and to the older brothers delight they love coming and yelling at me…”Mom, Phillip did a big stream”, or
“Mom, Phillip did TWO poops!”
My oldest is going to be 10 next month and I am amazed that this time has arrived.
Enjoy the day!!
happy birthday to ben!!
and thanks for the reminder — somtimes its easy for me to get overwhelmed at the long days with my 4,3, and 8 month old boys =)
Happy Birthday Ben! You sure are a cutie pie! ~~amber
Happy Birthday to you new teenager. I may need to read this with my soon to be 12yo who says with great disdain, “I don’t want to be a teenager!” (I think it has something to do with the sudden dislike of her teenage sister.)
Oh my, it was sweet to see your Ben so little. Happy Birthday to your Ben!
And yes, they do grow quickly, before you know it they are driving mustang convertibles and paying their own bills.
Happy Birthday to Ben! Having little ones and big ones makes it seem even more unreal- seems like the older ones were just that little!
@bethro78 - haha. yeah, or you just have to add a y on the end of every name. like benny-lou.
and bethy-lou.
Ha ha, love this and relate 100% (to the part I about having little ones, that is…)! I always appreciate hearing the perspective of you moms who are further down the road, and those of you with kids of all ages – I can surely learn a lot from you! Thanks for the encouragement and reminder to savor these moments, right NOW.
@lin789 - @appalolly - oh, gee. i hear ya. on KNOWING the years fly. but still. :/ yeah, there’s those days where it seems they can’t fly fast enough!!
@DanishDoll - when i read, “an ocean between us” that choked me up. i know when i had my babies, i felt i needed my mom more than ever! so i can just imagine how you both feel being so far apart. oh, hugs!@Missionfieldof5 - i promise! though somedays. i still doubt it myself.
@aretheyallyours - so true, kelli. having your feet in both camps so to speak – - mom of teens, mom of littles.. yeah. it seems the older ones should still be where the younger ones are~ like, who are you and what have you done with my baby!!! ha.
Happy Spring Break to you! Hope you have a great week together!
Happy birthday Ben!! what a good looking young man with a big heart. though i only interacted with your kids for a bit, through what you have written of them i’m so blessed to be able to ‘know’ them a bit growing up. so excited for what the years ahead hold for you. love that pic of him and kate when they ewere just young. so sweet. may the Lord bless and keep you each in the years ahead…and yay for birthday money and parties
And a reminder to you…that this age is also fleeting.
SO. MUCH. FUN.
Enjoy it.
*sigh*
Happy, happy to your teenage son.
D xo
happy *belated* birthday to ben…and his mom.
what a great perspective. truly…”the days are long but the years are short.” and sometimes i wonder what was so expensive about diapers now that we have teenagers!!! nobody told me that the diaper stage is as cheap as kids will ever be. or maybe they did and i just couldn’t hear them with my sleep deprived brain.
such a great reminder. i already do feel like the years are flying by… but sometimes the days just DRAG by. i need to turn this into a daily, moment by moment perspective!
happy belated birthday to ben. he is one handsome young man.
and thanks for the reminder amber. i’m believing it more and more that life
is but a vapor.
but man, i just want to hang on for dear life.
Aww, this is so good to hear! And I loved this line, “feeling like the refrigerator.. your kids the magnets, constantly STUCK to you!” Just makes me laugh, because it’s SO TRUE!!
And rightly so, for more than just looks!
Ben was such a cute little guy in years by gone, and now, quite handsome! You must be so proud of your kids.
Happy Birthday to Ben! I have a thirteen year old. I love her, love being with her.
@down_onthefarm - – really? really!! on diapers being the cheap part of parenting ?? thanks : )
Happy birthday to your ben boy. Reese & him look a lot alike in that first picture of him …. so cute! And really in spite of everything you mentioned on how ‘long’ the days can be ….. I believe you, they are over pretty quick.
Happy spring breaking : )
He looks so much like your husband in that pic of him when he was little ~
Precious, TRUE words. If we could somehow have just settled into those baby moments and ENJOYED them for what they were. Fleeting, sweet, times.
I’m loving THIS stage, too. The teens and middle schoolers are FUN – and so independent. I pray that I’m learning to enjoy each stage more. Only two more years with my big guy – that’s hard to think about. But also makes me SO much more purposeful than I was when I felt like they’d be hanging on me FOREVER.
@H0LDfast - i was trying to whisper that about diapers. i can get a little loud i know…sorry.
if what i said is news that doesn’t feel encouraging…just remember that you can’t believe EvErYthing you read on the internet!
happy diapering that sweet baby chad of yours.
@H0LDfast - @down_onthefarm - ugg. yes.. so far this morning kate is telling me we must go shopping, she has no shorts. ben is saying he needs pegs for his bike.. that are only FORTY dollars {is that a deal}?? and emma just told me she has no “warm shoes,” which means summer shoes!! :/ i’m sure reese would say there’s things she “needs” too.. but there is an advantage to little ones not being able to talk yet!!!
Happy Birthday to handsome Ben! I think I’m starting to believe that the boys will grow up too fast, but it’s hard to live like I believe it always.
Tell me how I can appreciate these years more… after all you have been through it!
Somedays its SO easy, the next day easier said then done… Happy Birthday to Ben, a little late.
Happy belated birthday, Ben! Hope he had a terrific one!
And yes, they *do* grow up way too quick! My youngest is almost 14 and I look back and wonder what happened. Seems it happened overnight.
Congratulations Ben, have a very good and exciting new year: being 13 is….ahum ! But when it gets too rough: remember the comforting thought that you are in your 14th year alraidy….so be happy. Please kiss your beautiful dear mother for me, will you…she is the best of moms !
Lieve groeten
Godeliva ( Ariadone )